I confirm the upgrade of the nginx increase the performance of nodebb. (index page was often realy slow / and some times crashes) The latest stable version of nxing has resolved this problems.
To upgrade on ubuntu:
sudo apt-get install software-properties-common
sudo add-apt-repository ppa:nginx/stable
sudo apt-get update
sudo apt-get install nginx
Thanks @MJ, Thanks @PitaJ
both hints helped. My nodebb did not load pages like themes/skins properly, so I tried to get websockets to work. I bypassed my shared hoster env by using an self compiled nginx on a non-privileged port and ssh tunnel (to prevent firefall changes) on that system, and that way I got websockets. Now I was able to load the theme page and so I switched to another theme, restarted and switched back to my current theme. Afterwards I stopped my temporary nginx-ws-tunnel-solution and the mobile page works for me now.
Next step: Find a solution for a permanently working websocket setup on my hosters systems.