You'd probably have to write an SSO plugin to share authentication. @julian has a ton of SSO plugins that you could use as a sample in writing your own one
https://github.com/julianlam?tab=repositories
As far as user management... somebody was asking for a WP user management plugin. Kind of like if you upgrade a user's privileges in WP, it updates it in NodeBB as well. It's doable but the client didn't end up going for it so we never ended up building it