No worries. I use “actresses” all the time, and “stewardess”, too, although I think nowadays you’re supposed to say “flight attendants”. The hard part is that some women actors want to be called “actors”, and some “actresses.” You never know.

In my story, it was “actor” because that’s what my wife wanted to use. It’s not a hard rule - it’s a difficult one, but not set in stone. It depends on the individual’s preference.

Community theater is the best, although K-12 can be pretty fantastic, too.

Depends on who you ask. Many people in acting prefer “actor” to be non-gendered.

If you’re anti-PC, then you probably prefer the gendered terms. In my wife’s case, she was a female actor, and I respect that. So, “actor.”

Obliquely related story.

My wife was briefly an actor, and they were running The Cask. During one rehearsal, the guy playing Montresor was doing the brick laying, and he started going:

“One brick… ah, ah, aah!
Two bricks… ah, ah, aaah!”

I don’t know if you had to be there, but I almost died laughing. Now I can’t read or see a reference to The Cask without thinking about that.

Threeee bricks… ah, ah, aaaah!