@drewdevault this is kind of like discussions on corporations: either you're held to moral responsibilities, or you're muzzled for the safety of others because you can't/won't restrain yourself. To permit someone to join your community is to assume they're at least capable of learning how to follow the rules, if they don't know yet. Ignoring their rule-breaking outright won't help them learn, so criticism/explaining is usually the appropriate response.
"Neurodivergent" is a broad term though.