when i was in college, i went to a "youth encounter" weekend with a bunch of folks from my old high school.
this was a "nice" suburban high school, middle to upper middle class.
at the time, i was shocked when i found out that over half the women there had dealt with some form of coercive, unwanted sexual encounter.
sadly, over the rest of my life, i've been shown over and over that this wasn't at all exceptional or unusual, that the percentage was probably even a bit low.
we need to believe victims and stop excusing perpetrators.