I wonder if part of the reason people still defend Ashten is because portrayals of abuse in media only show a very narrow range of ways that abuse can happen. And so if something doesn't fall into the category of the type of abuse that people often see labelled as abuse, people assume it's not abuse

@hadley I feel like the biggest threat to kids safety and well being is their parents, so I really hate that virtually all of these online child safety bills are just making kids more vulnerable to that. If we want to protect kids, we should educate them about grooming, make sure online spaces have decent moderation, and make sure there are good support systems in place that are easy to access.

@puppygirlhornypost2 I've had minors try to flirt with/hit on me, and I've politely turned them down while also trying to explain why it's a bad idea. This really is very easy to deal with if you are in any way at all a responsible adult

@puppygirlhornypost2 Honestly, being able to actually migrate instances easily is kinda essential for there to be actual choice. If it was an absolute pain to move instances, people would have way less choice

It feels like in a lot of transfem spaces there's a bit of a tendency to assume anyone who doesn't fully fit into the expected gender roles of a man must therefor be a trans woman who hasn't realized it yet. And like, yeah, that's complete BS. You're just trading one arbitrary and overly-restrictive box for another. In my experiences I've noticed that a lot of people just assume I want, and try and encourage or push me to get, a body that is fully feminine. But actually I want a body that will look femme if I want it to look femme and look androgynous if I want it to look androgynous, which I pretty much have, and so, no, I really don't want to go any further in my transition as I might lose that. But people assume I'm 100% a woman and want a body that matches that. I do think there's a genuine problem of trans spaces on Fedi being hostile to anyone who isn't a binary transfem, and I don't really have a good and easy solution for that beyond just asking people to be better.