@briankrebs I'm with you... When I was growing up in the 80's and early 90's, I was taught in school that "he/him" could mean masculine or an unknown identity.
As long as the message is clear, I feel like it's my obligation to adjust to "they/them" for an unknown identity since it can now imply a masculine identity to others. I'm creating the confusion by being stubborn and hiding behind the defense of "That's how I was raised so..."