@QueerMatters I think the intended meaning of "being defensive" is "unwilling to accept that they're wrong". I think that's a very poor expression for that meaning, and I primarily see it used by people who take for granted that they're right and that the other person is thus wrong -- despite rarely even providing a decent argument in favor of their stance.
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#ActuallyAutistic folk: do you guys ever get accused of being defensive when you’re actually just trying to clarify or even understand the other persons POV? Idk, I made a thread about something the other day, explained myself badly and when I tried to... -
#ActuallyAutistic folk: do you guys ever get accused of being defensive when you’re actually just trying to clarify or even understand the other persons POV? Idk, I made a thread about something the other day, explained myself badly and when I tried to...@QueerMatters What does "being defensive" even mean? "defense" is a concept that only makes sense as a response to an attack. It doesn't make sense for them to view your response as defensive unless they view their own actions as attacking, and if that's how they view theirselves, *why on earth* would they expect any response besides a "defensive" one?