I think maybe those of us who work really hard at the skill & experience of empathy - ironically speaking from my own experience/not assuming I speak for others on the spectrum - might sometimes feel like saying to insensitive people about empathy (or sympathy for that matter), “You just DO IT. You just HAVE it. Why don’t you just HAVE SOME?”
But what if they’re actually someone who is on that critical edge of learning they’ve really hurt others, and sincerely want some sort of “map”?