@julian Ahhh, thought he meant DO. Amended for incorrectness.
I'm a girl ...
Digital Ocean is where I am hosted and yes I was told to just delete and start over and that I needed a bigger droplet size..
,/nodebb restart looks like it was doing something - but it never came back online
Also the first time, when it went offline - i had nothing installed. No plug ins or anything. I simply got it runinng - at about 4am, lol. Went to sleep, got up maybe 4 hours later and it was gone..
This time I put in Forever and a few other things to keep it running -- and as test I did a server restart and everything came back up on it's own . I thought woot! Awesome, Forever Service is auto restarting nodebb Then I played with it a bit, mainly just changed theme (love cucina!) - added mail thingy because I had read that that was the plug in to use-- and it was still fine for another half hour or so then suddenly when i went from one page to another it was gone. restarting it in root didnt work - nothing.
So now it's destroyed and Im wary about trying again because I think it really might be out of my league. Ive used MyBB most of my forum years - really wanted to do something different this time round.