@Kichae @[email protected] That's an issue with all software federating via ActivityPub. If there isn't an existing follow relationship then the content isn't pushed to that user.
That's greatly simplifying it, of course. There's quite a bit more that actually goes into how it works.
In the case of the referenced topic, NodeBB automatically boosts replies that it receives from the category actor. When replies are made by NodeBB users, they are also addressed to everybody who has participated in the topic.
So given that, lemmy.ca should have received everything, at least since you started posting in it. In reality, there might be a connection issue between NodeBB and Lemmy, and that's what I'd want to verify first.